Frustrating Court Date!!!

So frustrating!! Our lawyer told us that we only needed to bring the father to the court date as the mothers wants have no significance in this country!!! Then when we go to the court date the judge says that he's not granting our adoption order until we come back with the mother on Aug 31!! It was really frustrating...especially when we found out from a friend who had adopted before us that our lawyer new that we needed both parents!!! I've always thought that it was very sad that they were going to court to fully give up their children and the mother doesn't even get to come!! I had almost decided to bring her anyways, but then decided that our lawyer might not like that....Boy, should have listened to my first instinct! Anyways, our new court date is Aug 31...which hopefully goes much better than the first one!! Please pray that the Judge grants the order this time!!! and for comfort for the birth parents!!!